I’m just trying (and failing, apparently) to be helpful, interesting, pleasing, whatever.
And here's the thing. And I know it's odd. Most days, I don't want anyone to try to "be helpful." At least, not in the way I think you mean it here. Most days, I write these entries because it has become a habit. Being who and what I am, though, I take offense (and this is a natural, valid reaction to me; I am easy to offend) if someone has to temerity to think hesheit can possibly help me by way of a comment to a blog entry. It seems arrogant and naive and presumptuous, and it seems somehow dismissive of whatever happens to be eating me at the moment.
It is important to understand that I have virtually no desire to try to help anyone. To me, it's an unnatural impulse (though I realize this is just one more way I'm not like most people).
This comment isn't the sort of thing I would ban you over (I have banned amazingly few people in six years, though one was earlier today). But I would say, consciously trying to "make me feel better" or whatever, will almost always only piss me off. Especially if you insist you have a right to do so. I'm not claiming that's fair. But it is true, and I expect people to recognize that.
On the way, I told Neil that I didn’t think there were going to be any more creators like him. “You may be the last of the comic book superstars,” I said.
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Date: 2010-03-22 09:58 pm (UTC)And here's the thing. And I know it's odd. Most days, I don't want anyone to try to "be helpful." At least, not in the way I think you mean it here. Most days, I write these entries because it has become a habit. Being who and what I am, though, I take offense (and this is a natural, valid reaction to me; I am easy to offend) if someone has to temerity to think hesheit can possibly help me by way of a comment to a blog entry. It seems arrogant and naive and presumptuous, and it seems somehow dismissive of whatever happens to be eating me at the moment.
It is important to understand that I have virtually no desire to try to help anyone. To me, it's an unnatural impulse (though I realize this is just one more way I'm not like most people).
This comment isn't the sort of thing I would ban you over (I have banned amazingly few people in six years, though one was earlier today). But I would say, consciously trying to "make me feel better" or whatever, will almost always only piss me off. Especially if you insist you have a right to do so. I'm not claiming that's fair. But it is true, and I expect people to recognize that.
On the way, I told Neil that I didn’t think there were going to be any more creators like him. “You may be the last of the comic book superstars,” I said.
I suspect you're right.