I'm sorry you're still not getting what you want out of SL RP. Speaking as a social gamer, I place a reasonable value on the "table chatter" and OOC speak because its interaction with other people that I come to the table looking for. As such, I feel a little sympathy with the people you indicate were irritating the hell out of you.

I want very, very immersive. Anything that pulls you out of the story...such as ooc chatter about another player's "boobs," destroys immersive rp.

If I wanted a chat room, I'd go to a chat room.

Wait...SL is a chat room! Silly me....